have u ever had a depersonalization moment when you look at yourself in the mirror and think wow this person is me and i have this body and this life and everything feels so strange why am i me and not someone else


it’s a symptom of anxiety

This happens to me a lot and it’s really jarring.


checking that one off the list.

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  • January: sexuality/preferences
  • February: city/state
  • March: favourite colour
  • April: favourite hair colour & favourite eye colour
  • May: favourite manga & favourite anime
  • June: favourite book
  • July: favourite song/band
  • August: crush names
  • September: instruments I play/ want to play
  • October: favourite game
  • November: if I changed my name, what would it be
  • December: random fact about me :)



A few months ago, we reminded the Internet (specifically English-language media outlets) to #RespectTheÑ. The point is simple: a letter that might look weird to non-Spanish speakers, is actually pretty common to those who know Spanish. Yet, when you get the AP to tweet out the following, it leads to confusion and just plain editorial ignorance:


Fast forward to last night. When we mourned the loss of the great Elizabeth Peña (Jacob’s Ladder, La Bamba), many of our readers started noticing that media was at it again. There was no “ñ” in the copy. Now, some of you might say, “Get over it,” but we say this: not including the “ñ” in Peña’s last name at a time when we are honoring her legacy would have caused an uproar if, say, actor Will Smith passed away and media outlets wrote, “Will Smythe.” It was disrespectful to Peña’s legacy. Removing the “ñ” in Peña’s last name changes her name to “Pena,” which leads to a change in pronunciation to her last name, as well as introduces the Spanish wordPena (sorrow) to the mix, which actually would apply to how we felt when we heard of Peña’s death but also to our “SMH moment” when it comes to English-language media. As some tweeters (including our own Rebeldes) pointed out:



They were reacting to this:


That tweet and others night lead the LA Times to finally make the change:


Yet, it is obvious that such an editorial mistake resonates with people who understand the issue (just see our Facebook too):


You can see the responses to that tweet here, even with the response we gave one hater:


Anyway, here are some examples of English-language outlets who got it wrong last night:



Anyone who ran AP story, like ABC News, CBS News and FOX News.




NBC News


Variety (They have since fixed this headline.)


The New York Daily News


Even popular Latino Facebook sites.


This is 2014, people. All you need to do is Google, “how to type a ñ” and you will get this very useful post from 2009. It’s not that hard, and even if the AP doesn’t want to do it for the strange excuse that we still run computers from 1985, doesn’t mean that actual news outlets should be lazy as well. Because at this stage, it is laziness, and it is disrespectful, specifically to Peña’s legacy. Spanish editorial issues matter, especially since (wait for it) the United States is expected to become the largest Spanish-speaking country in the world by 2050.

Let’s do this, English-language media. It’s not that hard. 

YEAH! Respect the Ñ!

It bugs me so much that English-language consistently erases the Ñ from the spelling for Spanish names and eventually it leads to a change in pronunciation. For the most part, Hispanics have tolerated the erasure of accent marks in last names but the Ñ is super important it complete changes the name. 

My one of the best examples I can think of (because I just heard it on the TV behind me) is Zoe Saldaña, who is Dominican and Puerto-Rican and proud of her Black Hispanic heritage. She is fluent in both English and Spanish. The least people could do is honor the heritage she is proud of by spelling and pronouncing her name correctly. I’m sure at some point she got tired of correcting people. 

The best thing I can equate for other people to understand is like when immigrants were brought into Ellis Island and their foreign names were anglicanized, or Asians who have to pick an “American” names so that people will stop butchering their name and take them seriously.

This is erasure for the sake of convenience and should not be tolerated. Our names matter. 


things i need u to please know right now:

  • bad days don’t last forever
  • napping is never a crime
  • all the cells in ur body are working so hard to keep u healthy and happy and they love u very much
  • also dogs, they love u very much
  • instant hot chocolate takes 2 minutes to make and requires no culinary expertise please indulge urself
  • u are a part of this world 
  • and a very important part
  • don’t doubt that for a single second

This could be fun or extremely sad

  • 1: Name
  • 2: Age
  • 3: 3 Fears
  • 4: 3 things I love
  • 5: 4 turns on
  • 6: 4 turns off
  • 7: My best friend
  • 8: Sexual orientation
  • 9: My best first date
  • 10: How tall am I
  • 11: What do I miss
  • 12: What time were I born
  • 13: Favorite color
  • 14: Do I have a crush
  • 15: Favorite quote
  • 16: Favorite place
  • 17: Favorite food
  • 18: Do I use sarcasm
  • 19: What am I listening to right now
  • 20: First thing I notice in new person
  • 21: Shoe size
  • 22: Eye color
  • 23: Hair color
  • 24: Favorite style of clothing
  • 25: Ever done a prank call?
  • 27: Meaning behind my URL
  • 28: Favorite movie
  • 29: Favorite song
  • 30: Favorite band
  • 31: How I feel right now
  • 32: Someone I love
  • 33: My current relationship status
  • 34: My relationship with my parents
  • 35: Favorite holiday
  • 36: Tattoos and piercing i have
  • 37: Tattoos and piercing i want
  • 38: The reason I joined Tumblr
  • 39: Do I and my last ex hate each other?
  • 40: Do I ever get “good morning” or “good night ” texts?
  • 41: Have I ever kissed the last person you texted?
  • 42: When did I last hold hands?
  • 43: How long does it take me to get ready in the morning?
  • 44: Have You shaved your legs in the past three days?
  • 45: Where am I right now?
  • 46: If I were drunk & can’t stand, who’s taking care of me?
  • 47: Do I like my music loud or at a reasonable level?
  • 48: Do I live with my Mom and Dad?
  • 49: Am I excited for anything?
  • 50: Do I have someone of the opposite sex I can tell everything to?
  • 51: How often do I wear a fake smile?
  • 52: When was the last time I hugged someone?
  • 53: What if the last person I kissed was kissing someone else right in front of me?
  • 54: Is there anyone I trust even though I should not?
  • 55: What is something I disliked about today?
  • 56: If I could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?
  • 57: What do I think about most?
  • 58: What’s my strangest talent?
  • 59: Do I have any strange phobias?
  • 60: Do I prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?
  • 61: What was the last lie I told?
  • 62: Do I prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?
  • 63: Do I believe in ghosts? How about aliens?
  • 64: Do I believe in magic?
  • 65: Do I believe in luck?
  • 66: What's the weather like right now?
  • 67: What was the last book I've read?
  • 68: Do I like the smell of gasoline?
  • 69: Do I have any nicknames?
  • 70: What was the worst injury I've ever had?
  • 71: Do I spend money or save it?
  • 72: Can I touch my nose with a tongue?
  • 73: Is there anything pink in 10 feet from me?
  • 74: Favorite animal?
  • 75: What was I doing last night at 12 AM?
  • 76: What do I think is Satan’s last name is?
  • 77: What’s a song that always makes me happy when I hear it?
  • 78: How can you win my heart?
  • 79: What would I want to be written on my tombstone?
  • 80: What is my favorite word?
  • 81: My top 5 blogs on tumblr
  • 82: If the whole world were listening to me right now, what would I say?
  • 83: Do I have any relatives in jail?
  • 84: I accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow me with the super-power of my choice! What is that power?
  • 85: What would be a question I’d be afraid to tell the truth on?
  • 86: What is my current desktop picture?
  • 87: Had sex?
  • 88: Bought condoms?
  • 89: Gotten pregnant?
  • 90: Failed a class?
  • 91: Kissed a boy?
  • 92: Kissed a girl?
  • 93: Have I ever kissed somebody in the rain?
  • 94: Had job?
  • 95: Left the house without my wallet?
  • 96: Bullied someone on the internet?
  • 97: Had sex in public?
  • 98: Played on a sports team?
  • 99: Smoked weed?
  • 100: Did drugs?
  • 101: Smoked cigarettes?
  • 102: Drank alcohol?
  • 103: Am I a vegetarian/vegan?
  • 104: Been overweight?
  • 105: Been underweight?
  • 106: Been to a wedding?
  • 107: Been on the computer for 5 hours straight?
  • 108: Watched TV for 5 hours straight?
  • 109: Been outside my home country?
  • 110: Gotten my heart broken?
  • 111: Been to a professional sports game?
  • 112: Broken a bone?
  • 113: Cut myself?
  • 114: Been to prom?
  • 115: Been in airplane?
  • 116: Fly by helicopter?
  • 117: What concerts have I been to?
  • 118: Had a crush on someone of the same sex?
  • 119: Learned another language?
  • 120: Wore make up?
  • 121: Lost my virginity before I was 18?
  • 122: Had oral sex?
  • 123: Dyed my hair?
  • 124: Voted in a presidential election?
  • 125: Rode in an ambulance?
  • 126: Had a surgery?
  • 127: Met someone famous?
  • 128: Stalked someone on a social network?
  • 129: Peed outside?
  • 130: Been fishing?
  • 131: Helped with charity?
  • 132: Been rejected by a crush?
  • 133: Broken a mirror?
  • 134: What do I want for birthday?